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Abusive Relationships

You May Be in an Abusive Relationship:

If your partner criticizes you and puts you down, or you put down your partner and criticize him/her.

If being in the relationship makes you feel less attractive and/or competent.

 If you and your partner ignore one another and devalue one another.

If you both have become separated from friends and family since beginning the relationship.

If you call one another names and are dishonest with one another.

If you both endure physical and mental abuse from one another and/or are forced to have sexual contact.

If You Think You Are in a Relationship that may Result in Sexual Assault or Abuse:

GET OUT! Trust your gut instinct.

Confide in someone you trust - a professor, family member, friend or counselor.

Change any contact information (cell phone number, instant messenger screen name, email address, etc.) and privatize any of your social networking profiles so that the person cannot contact you.

Ways to Spot a Violent Person:

Quick to get involved romantically


Controlling nature

Tries to isolate you from family and friends

Places blame on others

Unrealistic expectations

Rigid sex roles

Past battering

Excessive mood swings

Playful use of force with sex

Verbal abuse

Ways to Prevent Emotionally Abusive Relationships:

Keep the lines of communication open.

Don't blame one another for personal problems and dilemmas.

Don't allow feelings of frustration to manifest into feelings of anger and rage.

Show concern for one another.

Maintain eye contact when communicating with one another.

Maintain a positive demeanor in conversation.

Allow the other person to respond to what you have to say.

Show the other person that you understand his/her point of view.